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I Never Saw It Coming

Beth Davis

I always thought that drug addiction only happened to other people’s kids. I never dreamed it would happen to one of mine.

 

I want to let you know right up front that I’m not a psychiatrist or psychologist or any other “ist”. I’m just a mom who loves her kids and was devastated when one of them turned to drugs and eventually became a full blown drug addict.

Like any other mom, I wanted and still want the very best for my children. I’m also like a mama bear that protects her cubs, if one of them gets into trouble, I’ll do what I can to help them. In this case it was like taking on Goliath. It was a fight between a scared to death mama and a great big fearsome giant that was determined to destroy my child, but with God’s help, and many prayers, I was able to defeat that giant. God gave me victory over a problem that was much bigger than I was and the good news is that He’ll give you victory over your Goliath too!
You just need to know what God tells us that we are supposed to do, so you'll know how to get your prayers answered too.

 
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How To Pray For The Lost

How to pray for the lost

 

 

1 John 5:16 If you see any brother or sister commit a sin that does not lead to death, you should pray and God will give them life.

Lamentations 3:26 it is good to wait quietly for the salvation of the LORD.

Psalm 103:8 The Lord is compassionate, merciful, patient, and always ready to forgive.

Jeremiah 29:11 I know the plans that I have for you, declares the Lord. They are plans for peace and not disaster, plans to give you a future filled with hope.

Luke 1:37 For with God nothing shall be impossible.

 

The Bible tells us that God doesn’t want anyone to perish.  He wants us all to turn away from our sins and be saved (2 Peter 3:9).  We must pray and ask for Him to save our loved ones from Satan’s strongholds. 2 Corinthians 4:4 tells us that Satan has blinded the minds of the lost; so we need to pray for God to open the mind of our loved one.

 

1 Timothy2:1 I urge, then, first of all, that petitions, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving be made for all people.

 

Unsaved people don’t think they need prayer or salvation because they are blind to their need of a savior.  The Bible says that they think that the gospel is foolishness (1 Corinthians 1:18) so it does no good to even argue about it with an unbeliever.  Satan has put a veil over the minds of the lost, so the first thing to do is to pray for God to remove the veil (1 Corinthians 4:4).

 

Remember it’s the Holy Spirit that changes someone’s heart, not you or me.

 

I had to keep telling myself “don’t look at your circumstances, look at God”. You may think that your loved one is a lost cause, but remember Lazarus? Talk about a lost cause! He had been dead for several days and his sisters had given up hope that even Jesus could help, they told Him that Lazarus had been dead too long for Jesus to help him, but Jesus said “Lazarus come forth” and he did!

 

Look at all the people that Jesus healed of deadly diseases and demon possession in the Bible.  Remember when Jesus was walking on water and Peter got out of the boat to walk with him?  As soon as Peter started to doubt, he started sinking and then Jesus asked why did you doubt me?  We must keep our faith in God.  There have been plenty of people in our modern times that have been miraculously healed of deadly diseases that the doctors just couldn’t explain.  So why is it so hard for us to believe that God can deliver our loved ones from sickness or disease or even drug addiction?

 

I love the old hymn Amazing Grace.  The words are so true. Amazing grace, how sweet the sound that saved a wretch like me! I once was lost, but now am found, was blind, but now I see.

 

The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 2:14 that when we are lost, we are blind; blind to the gospel, blind to needing a savior, blind to God’s will.  But the good news is that we don’t have to stay blind!

 

Isaiah 29:18 says that in that day the darkness of the blind shall see.

 

We should pray that our own eyes will be opened just like 2 Kings 6:17 Elisha prayed for his servant’s eyes to be opened to see all of the chariots of fire that God had sent to help them out of an impossible situation. 

I think that Paul’s prayer for other believers, found in Ephesians 1:16-19, is a great prayer that we can use to pray for our lost loved ones to gain wisdom and understanding.

Ephesians 1:16  I do not cease to give thanks for you, making mention of you in my prayers.

Ephesians 1:17 For I always pray to the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, that He may grant you a spirit of wisdom and revelation of insight into mysteries and secrets in the deep and intimate knowledge of Him.

 

Jude, who was the half brother of Jesus, gives us more good advice

Jude 1:22 Be merciful to those who doubt;

Jude 1:23 save others by snatching them from the fire; to others show mercy, mixed with fear.

Isaiah 40:11 Like a shepherd he takes care of his flock.  He gathers the lambs in his arms.  He carries them in his arms.  He gently helps the sheep and their lambs.

 

God gave us all a free will to choose between right and wrong or good and evil.  Although He won’t make us choose to be good, He can get our attention and help us to start choosing right and good instead of wrong and evil.

 

I know of a former drug addict that told me how God changed his circumstances for him.  He was immediately delivered from his addiction when one night he overdosed on cocaine which literally caused his heart to stop beating. While he was in the ambulance he died, but was resuscitated and then he died again in the emergency room and again resuscitated; he died three times that night and each time he went to hell.  It was a dark, hot, smelly, scary place where demons kept screaming while hitting him with a whip, he could feel tremendous pain with each lick, but it wasn’t drawing any blood.  The demon just kept tormenting and beating him.  He was only dead each time for about a minute, but while he was in hell, he said it seemed like forever.  When he finally came back to life the third time he was screaming “don’t let me go back to sleep” and “somebody get me a preacher”.  He knew that he couldn’t bear to go back to hell again and he was so afraid that he might die for good the next time, but mostly he needed to know how to be saved. 

 

He did get saved and freed from drug addiction that night.  God knows just how to get our attention; in this case it was pretty drastic, but He knows what it’s going to take to get your child’s attention too, so I urge you to get out of God’s way and let Him get to work on changing your child’s circumstances. 

 

There’s a great story in 2 Kings 7 that tells us about the dire circumstances of an entire city that was starving to death because of a terrible famine in the land, which included four lepers that were sitting at the entrance to the city, because a leper wasn’t allowed inside the city. A leper was an outcast and basically good-for-nothing in the world’s eyes.  One day they decided to do the unthinkable and convinced each other that they should go into the enemies’ camp and ask if they could have some food.  They thought so what if they got killed at the hands of the enemy, since they were starving to death anyway, but when they got to the enemies camp, they found the place completely deserted of people, but fully stocked with enough food for their whole city, plus clothing, gold and livestock. 

 

1 Corinthians 1:27 says that God loves to use the weak and foolish things of this world to shame and confound the strong and the wise. 

 

In this case He used four good-for-nothing lepers, as far as the world was concerned, to go find enough food to save their entire city from starvation. 

I took away two major points from this story:

 

1.     If God can use a good-for-nothing leper to save a whole city, then He can surely use me or you to save our children from Satan’s destruction.

2.     Those lepers would have starved to death if they hadn’t decided to do something outrageous instead of sitting around in self pity.  We can’t just sit around feeling sorry for ourselves; we must do something outrageous to save our loved ones from eternal damnation; pray, fast and surrender them to God!

 

 

If we keep our trust in God and keep on praying (Luke 18:1) He will send help for our seemingly impossible situations.

 

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Lyn Ventura wrote 119 days ago

Hi Beth,

Thank you for sharing your story. There are so many who can relate to it, having dealt with a family memeber who suffered with addiction, I am one of those people. I think the great message of your book is teaching others that we can't change the addicted..only God can. All we can do is love them and look at ourselves, our response to that person and our walk with God. Your love for your son is quite evident, as is your love for God. I liked how you talked about idols. Dealing with addiction can become so consuming that that person can easily become the focus of your life, thus an idol. The Lord always comes first as your book clearly directs. Best wishes for your son's sobriety and his new life in Christ. Many blessings to you, a mom with a godly servant's heart. Many stars!!

Lyn Ventura
"With All My Mind"

superostah wrote 125 days ago

It becomes immediately apparent how much you care for the well-being of your son through your writing. The fact that you are not content with placing the blame for his actions entirely on him definitely help in showing that, but almost every word here in the first chapter reads as from someone who can't get their mind off of their kid. As a new father, I can definitely sympathize. . . although I really hope my three year old isn't getting into quite the same trouble.
The connection to the prodigal son is an important one, if not in understanding your son's actions, to understanding where you were as a parent at this point in time. You were willing to bring the kid back into your loving arms, no questions asked, just to have him back and to love him. Fattened calf was always ready on the table, I'm sure.
This is heartbreaking, but I feel that I'll need to read more. I'm adding you to my watchlist. High stars!

Lara wrote 166 days ago

Many readers will connect with this sad but meaningful story. It speaks for our time. Well done for courageous writing. Lara
A RELATIVE INVASION

DaisyFitz wrote 399 days ago

What a heartbreaking and warming story. I have a three year-old and it terrifies me how easy this can happen to our children.
Much love

Cx

Mark Cain wrote 508 days ago

Beth, Now I know why you didn't like the idea of babies (innocents) in Hell.

This is a moving story, but difficult for me to read. You can probably figure out why.

I have given you high stars. Congratulations on telling a story with heart.

Mark

revodell wrote 511 days ago

Beth, Thank you for the candid picture of your process. It is amazing how resilient we all are.

Donald
Life Discovery

coCinstrumental wrote 530 days ago

Hey, I like how you didn't say as a part of rebelling he let hsi hair grow to a certain length. It's so annoying when ppl say guys with ear to shoulder length hair have it that length to be rebellious or when they say that's long hair. Especially wiwhen they call hair from above ears to earlobe length long or hair from upper to mid neck long. not all guys have long hair to be rebellious anyway. I think your first chapter should be a Prelude, then go on about his life, unless this is a work of fiction. "i didn't see it coming" reminded me of POD's "Youth of the Nation". Please check out my book about a school shooting called "The Show is On". It's the second book in my series, so you can choose to read or not to read "Crowded" first. "Crowded" is published on Kindle. I have the link in my profile description. Thanks.

Kady Colter wrote 535 days ago

Beth,

What heartfelt writing - pouring out your soul to God for your son. We need more books like this. Thanks for sharing that. I think this will be a great book targeted nonfiction for the Christian market but one thing you said about praying and God will answer your prayers. I do believe God answers prayers, but not all.

And we don't know why, we just have to trust his will and reasons for not answering some prayers. A friend just died, and we were all praying she would live. Another guy I know prayed when he was ten that God would let his grandmother live, and she died. He became an atheist.

I think that non-believers and believers would have a problem with that, so perhaps you could address that in your book. I'd like to see you broaden that subject and go deeper as to why God doesn't answer all with an affirmative.

Thanks for your loving spirit. I'm starring you high. If you get a chance please read Shakespeare's Pink Cadillac which has a POV from 2 teens. Since you were mom of a boy, you should have some insight.

Thanks!
Kady

Kady Colter wrote 535 days ago

Beth,
Finished chapter two - pig pen should be with an "e"

Whoah, you're going through alot, will keep reading! ~Kady Colter

Kady Colter wrote 535 days ago

Hi Beth,

On first chapter, will keep reading but making this note before I forget. ~Kady Colter Shakespeare's Pink Cadillac

First paragraph: Cap David Jeremiah's book title

Lcamp wrote 536 days ago

Thank-you Beth for sharing your story. Word for word I lived the same thing with my youngest son. The greatest thing that can come out of this dark time is our testimonies of coming through it. Obviously you can see why I had an interest to read the whole story, and also, because I have been a Christian for many years, I appreciated and understood all the scripture content. But my suggestion to you would be to give the whole story first before so much content of scripture and commentary. It was easy to get lost out of the story in the beginning because there was so much scripture to wade through. You don't want to lose the non-christian reader who picked up the book for the story's sake, because they will put it down. Let people who identify with your story get caught up in your story first, then let them get hungry for an answer as they read. At the end, while you are sharing the triump of coming through it, interweave the neccesarry scripture and then draw them back to the different time zones that the scripture relate to. As they become fully convinced you have an answer they don't have, they will be anxious to read on. Finish the book with the heavy scritures and commentary material. At that point your reader will absorb the message and the point you are really trying to get across.
I like Non-fiction, Christian stories, that's what first attracted me to your book. I also have uploaded a Non-fiction, Christian story you may enjoy, it's titled "The Chair" Please check it out and give me comment. Stay Blessed!

Tom Bye wrote 537 days ago

Hello Beth-

book- i never saw it coming-

After reading all six chapters posted, i feel oh so sad for this trying life you had, how heart-breaking it must be
to have a son on drugs and a prison record also because of the same drug addiction--
On brighter book, your faith in God shines through your writing, and hopefully its catching for other readers.

for it;s target market , Christian non-fiction-there is a big market out there and it should do well,
i found the readings from the bible very informative-

tom bye
book- from hugs to kisses-
i think you might like chapters- 16-18-19-23-in mine- please glance and comment and star- thanks Beth

AudreyB wrote 537 days ago

Wow, Beth, that was some roller coaster ride. My own mother struggled for many years with a drug-addicted son and could have benefitted from a book such as yours.

I like that you note how addictive marijuana is today. Many parents assume weed is the same as it was in the Seventies or Eighties. It's not the same. It's as much as twenty times more powerful!! And you also note his use of prescription drugs--also more common today than we adults remember. Many kids make a fortune selling their Adderall.

The only thing I have to say is that we'd like to see more. What stories can you give us about your son before the drugs? And during? And after? You tell us about what happened, which is effective--but even more effective would be a scene where we hear his words and yours in return. These scenes would bring the reader into your home and into your despair in a way that this narration cannot.

Best wishes to you!!
~AudreyB
Forgiveness Fits

Warrick Mayes wrote 540 days ago

Beth,

I liked the honest and simple approach that you have taken to writing.
I do feel that the volume of biblical references is too heavy, but there might be others who like this. If you're a bible reader, you're more likely to be interested in these references, but also less likely to need them. If you're the opposite, you are more likely to be put off by all these references (me!).
I think that you have a story that could stand up on its own. You do also make reference to God throughout your story, so everyone will know the point you are making. Why not let the religious angle be less prominant, more subtle - you might win more people over.

Best regards
Warrick

Dianna Lanser wrote 540 days ago

Beth,

Your writing is honest and straightforward. This is an easy to swallow book, which it needs to be. Most people who will pick this up will be looking for some hope and a light at the end of the tunnel. And your book does exactly that, right away in chapter two. My friend calls them glory bumps, but most people call them goose bumps - that’s what I got when I read the Holy Spirit worked in your son’s life to change it! I am so, so very happy He did. J

Beth, I love that you give practical ways to deal with the “storm” - prayer, fasting, praise, giving… This is so very helpful, especially to those who are in the “middle of it” right now. They need the truthful answers fast!

Thanks too for sharing your struggle and insight as you rode that emotional rollercoaster - Enabling, denial, realization, humiliation, depression and fear, shock, anger, and finally surrender. The scripture references give your book backbone and the foundation on which you make your truthful claims. I can so relate to the James passages you shared in chapter one. When I was a freshman in college, my dad died and then two years later, my mom was diagnosed with cancer and then I found myself having to break off a marriage engagement. This all happened when I moved away to a strange city where I didn’t know a single soul. God became my best friend and I memorized every word of James chapter one. I can still quote it today, twenty-five years later. The heroine in my book memorizes it too!

Without a doubt, your openness and humility is what will sell this book, and of course, your writing ability… Because you have made yourself fully vulnerable, your witness is entirely believable. May God bless the good thing you are doing. Beth. Six stars! And a promised backing (I just put some new books on my shelf this morning, so I’m going to let them ride there for a few days)

Sincerely,
Dianna Lanser
Nothing But The Blood

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